Individuals

Let me give you a peek inside my office…

Carla is the sweetest woman you’ll ever meet – just looking in her lovely eyes makes you feel seen and cared for. In fact, as a kindergarten teacher this natural skill is professional gold.

And in the tight squeeze of my hug, with my hands smoothing her brow, she can finally relax. Sometimes, she lets out feelings of near homicidal rage that have been trapped inside. And she can indulge being the center of attention.

This calms her anxiety and helps her to feel more confident asking for the kind of holding she craves in bed.

Dylan, a psychiatrist, spends her days managing the critical conditions of many people who really need her. And when we talk about her desires, I’m literally on the other side of the room. We’ve discovered she needs an incredible amount of distance from another person to be able to feel herself.

But when her nervous system gets what it wants first, she melts and loves intimacy and closeness. And as she’s learned to explain this to her life partner, it’s not so painful that she sleeps in her own bed. Because she is more available to be intimate while she’s awake 😉

Joel needs to take his time to become aroused. When he came to me, he thought age and stress had taken their toll, the tax of a successful life. But when we relieved all the pressure he felt and ritually smashed all the lies he had been told about the way men should be, we discovered there was nothing wrong with his body.

Joel just needed to build arousal slowly and learn the delicious lesson that sex is about FAR MORE than just orgasm.

What will it be like for you?

People seek out my practice for different reasons… but no matter how varied their concerns and how different their identities or life choices may be, most of us could stand feeling better about our bodies and our sex lives.

Intimacy Coaching can go beyond what a therapist can do.

There are many reasons why you can’t seem to have what you want.

Just being able to have an honest conversation about sexual intimacy can be incredibly therapeutic – we will do lots of that! But in our work together, we have the option to do much more. Here are a few possibilities:

Exploring your fantasies
Practicing the art of flirting
Expressing your boundaries in a way that’s sexy
Clearly asking for what you want, while still being encouraging
Increasing the quality of your touch
Finding what authentically turns you on
Honing the skill of fighting lovingly

Shame resilience

We will acknowledge how shame has managed to creep its ugliness in subtle and overt ways into just about everything we think about sex.

You and I will investigate how shame has affected your sexual response and heal those wounds in ways that might surprise you.

I work with the healing power of pleasure.

There is a power in accessing your own erotic energy on behalf of radical self-acceptance. Through body awareness exercises, breathwork, movement, and conscious touch, I help people access their own arousal energy.

It’s a significant gesture – an admission to yourself that your pleasure matters, right now, exactly how you are.

That takes no small amount of bravery, but the payoff rocks!

We tap the Life Force on behalf of your fulfillment.

Through your growing erotic self-awareness, we gain access to an incredible source of primal power. There lies a wholeness that harsh self-talk has denied you.

We will begin the process of counteracting the negative experiences in your body memory with lots and lots of positive ones. As delight and joy pump chemicals into your system, you will experience enormous energy, supporting you through the scary passages.

Here is the process…

We set up a heart-to-heart chat (this costs you nothing). We just spend a little time together to see if there is the intuitive connection and heart resonance to go deep together. Intimacy Coaching is INTIMATE. It’s really important that we click.
You let me know what’s going on as best you can. This might not be completely clear; don’t let that keep you from calling. For most of us, we are a bit jumbled up and don’t really have a clue what’s going on until we get some support. I’ll guide you with clarifying questions, and we’ll get somewhere – I promise.
I’ll answer any of your questions about the process of Intimacy Coaching; the details of where, when and how we work together; and anything else you need to know.

Get what you need.

You know how they tell you on the airplane, “In the event that cabin pressure drops, secure your oxygen mask FIRST, then help others.” Pick up the phone, and let’s get some oxygen into you.

Reach out at (650) 597-9955. Let’s have that heart-to-heart today, so you can nurture and harness your power.